Category: Coaching Insights

Do we trust our coach?
We have to, otherwise it will be difficult to take in what they dish out for our benefits.
Think about it
If we don’t trust the counterparty and what they say, what are the likelihood that we will listen and actually apply their teachings into our daily lives?
It is probably very close to 0.
Trust is a derivative of relationships.
It takes time to form and it takes time to bond.
Once you are engaged in a coaching relationship, take the time to understand the coach and why they think the way they do.
We say the same in Happy Me also.
The important thing is patience, and the ability to understand that not all progress is visible.
Massive progress beneath the waterline IS progress.
And Happy Me coaches are good at articulating that.
So you understand that you are in good hands.

Are coaches expensive?
Truthfully, no matter how expensive they can be – They are not.
This is not a mental gymnastics exercise.
A little mindset shift will allow you to understand why I said what I said.
Coaches who have rough it out, knows how to navigate through Life’s toughest storms and choppiest waters.
That means we gain skills, knowledge and short-cut the time it takes to perfect a craft.
Or journey.
If Happy Me allows us to achieve our goals and ambitions 2 years faster than expected, is that an expensive deal or a valuable one?

By Tan Yue Ying | 22 August 2021

Imagine standing in a vast open field with no end in sight. There is nothing else, other than tall grass swaying with the wind, around you. Behind you is a narrow trail you have physically, forcibly created with your bare hands and before you remain an endless stretch. You think you must continue creating the path to destinations unknown alone, but you don’t have to.

A personal or professional coach understands what we can achieve and the long arduous, meandering journey that is necessary to travel are one and the same.

So, when do we need a coach?

Is it only when we need help in our personal and/or professional life that we turn to coaches and their expertise?
As it turns out, we don’t have to be in need to engage with a coach. The best time we need a coach is when we have an ambition.

We need to ask ourselves: What do I want, especially moving forward?
If we fail to be able to provide an answer, coaches can help us to identify, plan, and work towards our goals.
On the other hand, we may know what we want and may already have a definite goal(s) in mind; Coaches can help us to achieve and realize it.

It is not uncommon to lose sight of ourselves, or for us to feel lost in life.
Expert coaches understand that results take time and hence come armed with the clarity and patience to guide and support us.
We can expedite pieces of the journey because of their know-how.

In fact, coaches want to understand us and our beliefs, values, and desires.
We can make use of the safe environment and space created by the realm of coaching to see ourselves more clearly, and to experience and attain a deeper connection and more meaningful relationships with ourselves and others.

After all, how do we know how far we should and could jump if we don’t know how big the gap is between where we are currently and what we hope and/or need to achieve?

Coaches help to close the gap by identifying and addressing blind spots we may have.

We can learn to focus on the future and commit to finding our own solutions for future challenges.
We can learn to better navigate our way into the future, knowing that our coaches will be there to support and guide us along the way.
We can learn to hold ourselves accountable and not be afraid of changes and changing ourselves.

The question is – Are we able to appreciate the short-cut without having gone the long way?
Expert coaches can articulate that clearly because they have walked that journey.

So, this is why it matters. Standing on the shoulder of giants allows us to see the far horizon.

If and only if, you found that giant.
And Happy Me, can find that giant for you.

 

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By Tan Yue Ying | 22 September 2021

Most of us who had gone through formal education grew up with numerous teachers in our lives. Some provided us with guidance and help that have benefitted us for years down the road, while others might have only given us unpleasant memories. Regardless, we still remember (most of) them.

The act of “teaching” implies the transfer of knowledge from one person (the teacher) to another (the student). However, this is where it overlaps with coaching. 

So why do people often confuse the two? Because teaching and coaching can be very similar.

There are 3 main similarities between teaching and coaching.

1. Both involve helping someone to gain knowledge, skills, and/or competencies. 
2. Both start with the end (aka goals) in mind.
3. Both involve a step-by-step process on how the goal can be achieved.

However, this is where the similarities end. We have delved deeper into the nature of the two professions to explore how we can differentiate between the two. 

1. Teachers tend to follow a certain structure or format to impart knowledge, while coaches adapt according to the progress of the coaching session and the coachee’s status.
2. Teachers provide answers and solutions to problems, while coaches ask more questions about the problem to discover the solution.
3. Teachers have to put in the hard work in teaching, while in coaching, both coaches and coachees have to work hard and work together to achieve the desired results.
4. Teaching is a one-way interaction, whereas coaching is built upon a two-way dynamic relationship between the coach and the coachee.
5. Teaching relies heavily on the teacher, whereas coaching is all about the student.
6. Teaching is more about educating, whereas coaching is about empowering people.
7. The goals in teaching are curated based on a set curriculum, whereas in coaching, it is based on the needs and wants of the coachee.
8. Communication and the expression of thoughts are key in coaching. In teaching, however, it is more about giving, listening to, and following instructions.
9. Teachers can take on the role as a coach, but good coaches should not be using teaching technique to guide coachees.

 

 

Source: The Oriental Economist

A common issue that arises upon leaving the formal education system is that we feel lost. 

We no longer have constant guidance in our lives that we get from our teachers. 

We now have to explore and navigate by ourselves in the murky waters of the dog-eat-dog world. 

Sometimes, it feels that we are moving blindfolded. 

And because we are unable to see where we are going, we may end up heading towards a place we have never intended to go.

This is where coaches come into play.

If you are feeling lost in the sea of life, coaches can act as the compass you need to help find your way to your destination. Just that you need to walk the journey yourself.

So which of the two do you think best suit you?

 

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Join our Happy Me community at our social media pages to learn more about coaching and how coaches can help you in ways a teacher can’t.

 

Disclaimer: The views expressed in the article above are solely the opinions of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official policies or position of Happy Me Career (“Company”). Further, the Company does not make any warranty as to the correctness or reliability of such content. The Company cannot be held responsible for any use which may be made of the information contained therein.

 

References:

Casasola, T. (2020, February 16). Teaching vs coaching. Medium. Retrieved September 17, 2021, from https://medium.com/@timcasasola/teaching-vs-coaching-61a9510048b5.

What’s the difference: Teacher vs. coach?: Life. The ORIENTAL ECONOMIST. (n.d.). Retrieved September 17, 2021, from https://toyoeizai.net/articles/-/408617 .  

Wicklander, A. (2010, March 1). The difference between teaching and coaching. Project Idealism. Retrieved September 17, 2021, from https://www.projectidealism.com/posts/2010/03/difference-between-teaching-and.html .

How do we get into the best shape of our lives?
First and foremost, we need to be accountable to ourselves.
Secondly, and most importantly – We need good coaches who can guide us along the way.
We see this all the time in the gyms. These professionals are known as fitness trainers.
They are there to guide us in terms of training sets, repetitions, posture, warm-ups and stretches.
They are also there to ensure that we don’t retreat just because the going gets tough.
Of course, also watching out for us if we are on the red line.
They are there to support our growth because they know what it takes to bring you to your destination.
Happy Me is career gym.
It is an assemblage of coaches – both personal and professional – where you can entrust your future to.
What’s better?
Happy Me goes beyond the realm of fitness.
We are in your workplace, shaping your personal and professional development whenever you require.